K's Mumbo Jumbo

Jan 17 2014
idgafiamallthefandoms:

idgafiamallthefandoms:

Here’s the reason i need feminism. I went to a party not long ago with some good friends, and i met a guy who couldn’t understand i didn’t want him - he kept coming at me, saying things like: “you want it, you just don’t know it ‘till i give it to you” and “fucking whore, you’ve slept with half the men in here, it’s only fair i get some too”.  I felt imensely uncomfortable, and i tried getting away from him - i was really scared, to be honest.  I ended up with going into the kitchen to Call my parents and tell them to come and get me, when he came from behind and grabbed me hard on my breasts, telling me i DESERVED what i got. He twisted my breasts so hard i have huge bruises, both underneath and on top of my breasts; including some hard bitemarks on my arms, neck and shoulders.  A friend came and saw it, and helped me get out, but i’m still scared and uncomfortable.
I’m sick of THIS. Of men (granted, only a few) thinking they hear yes when i say no.  I need to make it clear that this happens. I could have gotten raped, if not for my friend helping me out.  And it’s scary.

I’m begging you, reblog this or do SOMETHING so people can see that this happens; the police told me it didn’t “count as sexual assault, seeing he didn’t penetrate me, and because it has been two days, they can’t do anything, because his DNA would have been washed off by now”. Please, let people know that feminism isn’t just women wanting to get a hugger paycheck, or just saying these things; IT HAPPENS ALL THE TIME AND IT HURTS AND IT IS SCARY TO BE A PART OF.

When women are attacked we have to prove much more than assault. This is assault. It is ridiculous that the police and DA’s are more willing to protect RAPISTS (and make no mistake this man will or has raped) than to attempt to even look into it.

idgafiamallthefandoms:

idgafiamallthefandoms:

Here’s the reason i need feminism. I went to a party not long ago with some good friends, and i met a guy who couldn’t understand i didn’t want him - he kept coming at me, saying things like: “you want it, you just don’t know it ‘till i give it to you” and “fucking whore, you’ve slept with half the men in here, it’s only fair i get some too”.
I felt imensely uncomfortable, and i tried getting away from him - i was really scared, to be honest.
I ended up with going into the kitchen to Call my parents and tell them to come and get me, when he came from behind and grabbed me hard on my breasts, telling me i DESERVED what i got. He twisted my breasts so hard i have huge bruises, both underneath and on top of my breasts; including some hard bitemarks on my arms, neck and shoulders.
A friend came and saw it, and helped me get out, but i’m still scared and uncomfortable.

I’m sick of THIS. Of men (granted, only a few) thinking they hear yes when i say no.
I need to make it clear that this happens. I could have gotten raped, if not for my friend helping me out.
And it’s scary.

I’m begging you, reblog this or do SOMETHING so people can see that this happens; the police told me it didn’t “count as sexual assault, seeing he didn’t penetrate me, and because it has been two days, they can’t do anything, because his DNA would have been washed off by now”.
Please, let people know that feminism isn’t just women wanting to get a hugger paycheck, or just saying these things; IT HAPPENS ALL THE TIME AND IT HURTS AND IT IS SCARY TO BE A PART OF.

When women are attacked we have to prove much more than assault. This is assault. It is ridiculous that the police and DA’s are more willing to protect RAPISTS (and make no mistake this man will or has raped) than to attempt to even look into it.

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Sep 20 2013

webelieveyou:

nextyearsgirl:

Do you ever think about the fact that we live in a society where people sincerely believe that women have more to gain from claiming sex was rape than men do from claiming rape was sex?

Bless this post.

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Aug 28 2013

toptumbles:

Rejection

Um. So I’m probably one of the few folks who doesn’t think this is adorable. At all.

I think it’s fucking scary how this little boy keep pushing himself on her after she CLEARLY doesn’t want to be bothered with his ass.

And the adult behind the camera doesn’t intervene at all because it’s ‘cute.’

And how analogous it is to when grown ass men don’t take fucking no for an answer, no matter how much we push and shove and say no.

This is not cute. This is an absolute disregard of this little girl’s boundaries.

In the very bottom left gif you can see he’s smiling/laughing. Like this is some kind of game.

I would bet money that the person filming this is laughing and encouraging him.

This is how we teach boys not to respect women’s spaces.

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Aug 26 2013
Aug 17 2013

In response to the Steubenville, Ohio teen rape case, West Virginia U.S. Attorney William J. Ihlenfeld is launching a program to teach high school athletes not to post evidence of rape online.

It’s called “Project Future,” and his goal is to teach teens how to avoid getting in trouble with the law by using cell phones, cameras, and social media “responsibly.” Instead of teaching teens not to rape, the U.S. Attorney wants to teach them not to get caught.

This is rape culture at work: The very people who are in charge of enforcing our laws look at a cruel, brutal attack on a young girl and think, “If only the teens hadn’t posted photographic evidence online.”

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This is sickening.

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Jun 23 2013
‎Rape culture is a culture in which people who have survived a violent crime are asked to laugh about it because other people think it’s funny.

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Rape jokes are unacceptable and should not be tolerated under any circumstances.

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Jun 18 2013

thepoliticalfreakshow:

The GOP Tries to Redefine Rape Exemptions—Again

The House debated and passed a bill on Tuesday that would ban all abortions after 20 weeks across the country. The bill, passed by a nearly party-line vote of 228 to 196, replicates laws passed in a dozen states in the past three years limiting the time period during which women can obtain a legal abortion.

HR 1797, sponsored by Rep. Trent Franks (R-Ariz.), is not expected to pass the Democrat-controlled Senate, and President Barack Obama has already threatened to veto it. But it does contain a provision that redefines rape exemptions, significantly limiting the number of women who would qualify. In order to obtain an abortion after 20 weeks under this law, a woman who was raped must be able to prove that she reported the rape to authorities—a requirement not present in other rape exceptions to federal abortion laws.

Republicans added this provision to the bill, which originally included no exceptions for rape or incest, after the House Judiciary committee approved it last week. But the alternative language Republicans inserted creates its own problems. It is more restrictive than the Hyde Amendment, the law barring federal funds from being used to pay for abortions. Hyde specifically exempts cases of rape, incest, or when the life of the mother is at stake—with no requirement that women have documentation from police that they reported the crime.

According to numbers from the Bureau of Justice Statistics, less than half of all rapes or sexual assaults are reported to the police (the bureau’s latest report actually found that the percentage reported to police has declined in recent years—from 56 percent in 2003 to 35 percent in 2010). Democrats pointed out that fear of violence, concerns about dealing with the legal system, and shame may prevent many women from reporting rape.

"They leave out even Hyde exceptions for rape and incest, and then they try to shove it back in, but they do it with this crazy requirement that rape victims prove that they reported the rapes, only underscoring the point we’ve been making all this time which is that they really have no respect for women," Rep. Diana DeGette (D-Colo.) told Mother Jones on Tuesday.

"They’re redefining women’s bodies and women’s health care just off the top of their heads all the time," said DeGette, noting that she had never before seen a rape exception formulated like this.

Rep. Virginia Foxx (R-N.C.), who led the floor debate on the Republican side in the early afternoon, dismissed Democrats’ criticism of the rape exception. “They would find something to criticize in this bill no matter what,” Foxx told Mother Jones.

Franks also deflected the criticism. “This bill doesn’t take place until the sixth month of gestation,” he said. “A lot of these questions are already answered.”

Republicans had been criticized following a hearing on the bill that featured 23 Republican men and zero GOP women, and Franks attracted more negative attention last Wednesday when he suggested during a hearing that rape exemptions weren’t necessary because the incidence of pregnancy from rape is “very low.” After that, Republican leadership decided to hand control of the floor debate to GOP women. Foxx led the debate early in the afternoon, and Marsha Blackburn (R-Tenn.) took the helm later in the day. “We wanted to have as many women voices speaking on the bill, because the other side has tried to talk about everything but the bill,” Franks told reporters, accusing Democrats of having “injected false issues” into the debate by pointing out the gender ratio in the committee. Franks sat toward the back of the House floor during Tuesday’s debate and did not speak in favor of his own bill.

Franks’ proposed ban mirrors laws passed in a dozen other states that are based on the scientifically dubious premise that a fetus can feel pain 20 weeks after conception. A federal district court in Idaho struck down that state’s ban in March, and a federal appeals court deemed Arizona’s 20-week ban unconstitutional last month. Franks tried to pass a law last year that would have banned abortions at 20 weeks in the District of Columbia as well, but that bill failed.

Abortions after 20 weeks are extremely rare, accounting for only 1.4 percent of all abortions, according to the Centers for Disease Control. Many of those procedures happen because a life-threatening medical problem or a fetal abnormality only became apparent late in a pregnancy. (Other cases may involve women who realized only very far along that they were even pregnant, teens who hid a pregnancy, or women who couldn’t afford an abortion earlier in the pregnancy.) The American College of Obstetrics and Gynecologists, in a court filing supporting the challenge to Arizona’s law, said that such a ban is “neither supported by scientific evidence nor necessary to achieve an important public health directive.”

(Source: thepoliticalfreakshow)

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Jun 05 2013
TW-Sexual assault, abuse, rape culture…

To all those who don’t think the rape joke was a problem, or rape jokes are a problem.

I get it, you’re a decent guy. I can even believe it. You’ve never raped anybody. You would NEVER rape anybody. You’re upset that all these feminists are trying to accuse you of doing something or connect you to doing something that, as far as you’re concerned, you’ve never done and would never condone.

And they’ve told you about triggers, and PTSD, and how one in six women is a survivor, and you get it. You do. But you can’t let every time someone gets all upset get in the way of you having a good time, right?

So fine. If all those arguments aren’t going anything for you, let me tell you this. And I tell you this because I genuinely believe you mean it when you say you don’t want to hurt anybody, and you don’t see the harm, and that it’s important to you to do your best to be a decent and good person. And I genuinely believe you when you say you would never associate with a rapist and you think rape really is a very bad thing.

Because this is why I refuse to take rape jokes sitting down-

6% of college age men, slightly over 1 in 20, will admit to raping someone in anonymous surveys, as long as the word “rape” isn’t used in the description of the act.

6% of Penny Arcade’s target demographic will admit to actually being rapists when asked.

A lot of people accuse feminists of thinking that all men are rapists. That’s not true. But do you know who think all men are rapists?

Rapists do.

They really do. In psychological study, the profiling, the studies, it comes out again and again.

Virtually all rapists genuinely believe that all men rape, and other men just keep it hushed up better. And more, these people who really are rapists are constantly reaffirmed in their belief about the rest of mankind being rapists like them by things like rape jokes, that dismiss and normalize the idea of rape.

If one in twenty guys is a real and true rapist, and you have any amount of social activity with other guys like yourself, really cool guy, then it is almost a statistical certainty that one time hanging out with friends and their friends, playing Halo with a bunch of guys online, in a WoW guild, or elsewhere, you were talking to a rapist. Not your fault. You can’t tell a rapist apart any better than anyone else can. It’s not like they announce themselves.

But, here’s the thing. It’s very likely that in some of these interactions with these guys, at some point or another someone told a rape joke. You, decent guy that you are, understood that they didn’t mean it, and it was just a joke. And so you laughed.

And, decent guy who would never condone rape, who would step in and stop rape if he saw it, who understands that rape is awful and wrong and bad, when you laughed?

That rapist who was in the group with you, that rapist thought that you were on his side. That rapist knew that you were a rapist like him. And he felt validated, and he felt he was among his comrades.

You. The rapist’s comrade.

And if that doesn’t make you feel sick to your stomach, if that doesn’t make you want to throw up, if that doesn’t disturb you or bother you or make you feel like maybe you should at least consider not participating in that kind of humor anymore…

Well, maybe you aren’t as opposed to rapists as you claim.

Time-Machine (via a comment at shakesville.com)

Single greatest argument about this I have ever heard. 

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and this is how you explain why joking about rape is horrible, with none of those shit metaphors comparing women to watches or houses or cars or sandcastles or whathaveyou

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If you don’t want to read the whole thing, here’s a summary:
Rape jokes are bad no matter what. We really shouldn’t have to explain why they’re bad, but we will anyway. They make rapists think everyone approves of what they do, which encourages them to do it again.

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I always reblog this. Always.

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Apr 09 2013
missgingerlee:

Friends don’t let friends victim blame.

missgingerlee:

Friends don’t let friends victim blame.

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Mar 18 2013

glittertitties:

abaldwin360:

azvern:

TW: if you believe rape jokes are the sole cause of rape you’re a fucking moronic little twit. Just ignore that part of the screen that talks about “football stars”, this rape happened because of rape jokes, sports/athlete glorification had no part in any of it.

think-progress:

Five times the media took sides in the Steubenville rape case and painted the assailants in a positive light.

You’re still obsessing about this? Is it because you can’t stand that someone had a disagreement with you over the root of these issues?

Yeah, people in this town defended these boys because of sports worship.

Witnesses who were present said that they didn’t even realize what was going on was rape.

Making light of rape is a definite contribution to a culture that takes rape lightly/doesn’t understand the psychological ramifications of rape.

Furthermore, your continual assertion that anyone who thinks this happens solely because of rape jokes is a ‘fucking moronic little twit’ is quite frankly pissing me off because I have a feeling I know who you are referring to and, number one, they never said that rape jokes were the SOLE cause of rape, and number two, you seem to have quite a severe diaper rash over the fact that they don’t agree with your narrative as here you are still making shitty ass statements about it days later.

Do me a favor, if you are following me, please un-follow.

Actually, I’ll do you one better and go ahead and put you on my ignore list, as I have little patience for this kind of bullshit today.

good job azvern, keep trivializing this as an obsession with sports and ignoring rape culture and the things that influence it (yes, rape jokes do, way to passively aggressively disagree though broski). you’re a fucking ignorant ass dick, bro. these things happen all. the. time. and yeah, this might have more coverage because of the rapists’ sports involvement, but these cases play out like this all the fucking time. shut your ignorant fucking trap and listen, for once in your life, to women and rape victims who explain to you why a) what you’re doing (derailing this) is grossly offensive and b) how rape jokes encourage a society to be complacent with the crime of rape and to treat victims as the butt of jokes, to be believed on a rare occasion, to not consider what happened here to be rape. You really like ACTING intelligent, maybe you should try thinking about how rape jokes contribute to rape culture, the culture that inevitably believes what happened to the victim here is hilarious enough to joke about.

tldr; shut the fuck up you fucking tool. no one cares about your personal war to defend rape jokes and instead of blaming the rapists, your blame of ‘sports obsession’. get out.

They have done studies. They ask rapists if they think others rape. The overwhelming answer is that rapists think everyone rapes.

Therefore rape jokes tell rapists or those likely to rape that rape is fine. It is funny. It is okay. And that is why we must stop rape jokes. It both trivializes a violent crime and tells the perpetrator their crime is not a crime.

In short… rape jokes are not funny. There is no defense of them.

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